Deceptions Even the Most Discerning Christian Moms Battle with Sylvia Zuiderveen: Part 2

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They're the joyful agains our children shout on the swings, the

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exhausting agains of cooking and laundry,

and the difficult agains of discipline.

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So much of what we do

as mothers is on repeat.

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So what if we woke up with clarity,

knowing which agains we were called

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to, and went to bed believing we

are faithful in what matters most?

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We believe God's Word is

the key to untangle from the

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confusion and overwhelm we feel.

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Let's look up together to embrace a

motherhood full of freedom and joy.

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Hello, and welcome to another

episode of the again, podcast.

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I'm your host, Stephanie Hickox.

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And this is brought to you

by entrusted ministries.

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Today, we're bringing you part two of an

interview I had with Sylvia Zuiderveen.

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She is a women's ministry

director at Coram Deo Bible

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church, and she is phenomenal.

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Her joy, her enthusiasm, her

uncompromising love for the Lord.

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Our unmatched.

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Today She is bringing more truth

that we desperately need to hear.

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Because we are trying to swim

against the current of a culture.

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That has so little regard.

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For biblical principles and biblical

standards and perhaps you're thinking.

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Amen.

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I need more resources.

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To help me stand up to this culture.

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And raise my children in a way.

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That does not bow down to the idols

that are presented on a daily basis.

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We believe that interested

with a child's heart.

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Is so beneficial for moms

wanting to walk with other moms.

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As they pursue Christ.

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For wisdom in their parenting.

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Sitting down with a

group of moms every week.

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To focus on the same, a biblical truths.

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Has been a life-changing

experience for so many women.

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We would love that for your

family, for your marriage and

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for your walk with the Lord.

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You can find us@entrustedministries.com.

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Our study and trusted with the

child's heart was made just for you.

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And now here's part two with Sylvia.

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Stephanie: Sylvia if you were to speak to another temptation, maybe not just

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for moms, but for believers today,

what temptations are we falling into?

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Sylvia: I think the biggest is just that

we are allowing our fleshly temptation of

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driving first with a focus on self over

a focus on God to help us justify sin.

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And that's a very dangerous path.

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So we think that My life

should be comfortable.

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My life should be easy.

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My life should go according to plan.

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And, Genesis debunks that immediately

in the Bible, but somehow we think that

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our life should be different and God

should give us a life of comfort and

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if our comfort is in any way, shape,

or form marginalized or troubled,

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that it surely must not be God's will.

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And I think we need to go back to the

Bible always and stand on the truth of

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God's word and realize that sometimes

us being taken out of our comfort zone

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is a grace of God to draw us to him and

to seek him and to seek him while we can

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find him and to break up the fallow ground

of our heart and seek him and find him.

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Comfort isn't a sign.

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of blessing.

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Comfort isn't a sign of God's, goodness

or that you're in a right place with God.

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The world has a lot of comforts

to satisfy flesh, but we aren't

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called to a life of comfort.

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We're called to holiness.

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And we're to teach the Word of

God in season and out of season.

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And those words wouldn't be

there if we were always going

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to be living comfortably.

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We won't be living comfortably

because sometimes living Godly lives

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means we're living out of season.

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But we need to persevere.

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We need to seek Him.

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We need to still obey and we need to

stand firm on the truth of God's word,

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because comfort may be the biggest

distraction that the enemy is allowing

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in our lives to take our eyes off of God.

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Because often, if we think back to

times in our lives, on the mountaintop

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experiences, we can sometimes forget God.

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There's that Psalm that says that

he asked that God would not give

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him so many riches that he forgets

God or poverty so that he steals.

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Yes, that's about finances, but it's

also a biblical principle when we're

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on top of the world and it seems

like everything's going our way.

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We can be so tempted to

think we're in God's will.

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But God's will means living

faithfully according to the Bible,

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not seeking comfort at all costs.

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Stephanie: Oh, yes.

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Sylvia: Let's just feel

very strongly about that.

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Stephanie: And you should, It's difficult

to not desire that, and yet we need

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to be continually checking our hearts.

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The last time I read through Genesis,

when Joseph is imprisoned, that chapter,

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it says repeatedly, and God was with him

and God was with him and God was with him.

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He's in prison.

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And how often we can confuse the comforts

of this world for the favor of God.

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Sylvia: Great.

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Yeah.

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Stephanie: The favor of God is

his presence, his peace with

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us, his spirit going before us.

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Could you speak to what it looks like

to parent biblically and consistently,

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but also to adapt for different

personalities with different children?

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Sylvia: Of course I can.

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So God is amazing and He's so wise

and I love in His sovereignty.

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He knows not only.

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What we need as parents, but the

parents that our children need.

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And I think sometimes when we're

in those young years as moms.

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We can get covetous.

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We can get discontent.

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We can get our eyes off the fact

that this is a God who is 100

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percent good all of the time.

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And so if I have a child with a strong

will, that was given by a good God with

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great purpose for, His glory and my joy.

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And it's so easy for us

to get ransacked on that.

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But so by virtue of personal example

from our family I was blessed with

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two very strong willed children.

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Very strong willed children.

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Very different in personality, very

different in gifting, very different

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in passion and that type of thing,

but both of them very strong willed.

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So right from the get go, I learned that

one of my biggest struggles I had as a

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person was wanting to please other people.

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And Instantly, I would be in the

grocery store and have to face strangers

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looking at me when I had a child that

was stomping their foot and insisting

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on sugared cereal and out we'd go.

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We would just leave the

grocery store, no food.

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We don't buy things at the grocery store

when we don't act like a customer should.

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We would do the hard work of leaving

and do the hard work of disciplining

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relentlessly and consistently.

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I grew to understand that while I need

to parent differently with different

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personalities for them to best see God

as someone who is able to deal with

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my different aspects of my personality

and my different emotions in all times

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and seasons, he is still faithful.

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He's still a rock and

he's still consistent.

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And there are some biblical

principles that just don't

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change related to personality.

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We are going to teach them to

obey whether they're strong

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willed or whether they're not.

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We are going to teach them to worship

God with all of their heart, soul,

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mind, and strength whether they're

strong willed or not, whether

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they have a learning disability or

don't have a learning disability.

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One of my children's school,

Came very easily for and

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one struggled and struggled.

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Both have extraordinary worth work

ethics and that had to be taught.

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We had lists, we had chores.

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I so appreciate how

Betsy hits home on that.

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Like asking our children to contribute

to the wellbeing of our family is

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the most loving thing you can do

because they will always be part of

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a group in some way, shape or form.

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They're part of our family.

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They'll be part of a team at work,

they're going to be part of, a

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church, they're going to be part

of a group of kids at school.

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We parented strong willed

children differently according to

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personality because some of our

children liked a lot of words and

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some of our children liked None.

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One child was definitely more

sensitive than the other.

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And so how we phrase

things was very important.

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And honestly, in our family, the

sensitive child was actually the child

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that ended up being least sensitive.

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Through the teen years and then our child

that seemed least sensitive ended up being

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most sensitive through the teen years.

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So as a word of wisdom to

parents, our children change.

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Puberty does a wild thing to kids.

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And so parent them with who they

are in that moment, understanding

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that the consistency of pumping in

God's words and God's principles

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and God's foundation doesn't change.

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He's the same yesterday, today, forever.

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His precepts stand right.

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And the other glorious thing

is, God tells us in the Bible,

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if you lack wisdom, ask for it.

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Ask for it.

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Ask without doubting.

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He's so faithful when we're plugged

into him, when we're seeking him, when

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we're asking him to guide our parenting

rather than us thinking we know best.

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He's faithful to guide and

lead us in those tough moments.

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I think the key is we take the,

Things that are made clear in the

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Word of God, the things that are very

specifically taught us, and we go hard

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after that because that's crucial.

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That's key.

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Those are from God's inerrant Word.

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We take the particulars of that,

and we take them seriously.

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We take the principles of that,

and we take them seriously.

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That eats up pretty much

most of our parenting.

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With their personality, I think it's

more important that we Flame, the gifting

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and the sides of their personality that

can be used for God's glory by showing

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them how their personality can be used

for God's glory and their uniqueness

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and how they've been gifted that way,

rather than thinking that we have to

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adapt every single situation to them

because ultimately, As entrusted moms,

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we aren't child centered in our home.

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We are God centered, and so we will

take His Word and stand on it boldly,

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without compromise and joyfully.

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And I think there's so much to be

said for how we present the Word of

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God to our children, and how we lay

out disciplining and instructing

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them in their personalities.

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Whether they're a more melancholy

personality, or whether they're

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an exuberant, outgoing extrovert.

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Introvert to extrovert, God's word is

worthy of our best energy and enthusiasm.

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So even though they may be a person

that's more stoic, or they may be a

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child that seems less expressive, I

won't rob God of the goodness of speaking

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his word with extreme enthusiasm.

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He's worth it.

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He's worthy of it.

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Stephanie: Beautifully said.

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I could truly relate to you talking

about having fear of man and then

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having a strong willed child.

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I can think of specific moments

where we're driving home from

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the homeschool co op and I'm just

like praying and humiliated and

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thinking, Lord, I understand.

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I know that you're teaching

me through this as I target

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this behavior and train him.

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But it's so humbling to me and, when

your child's doing things that you

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would never dream of doing or saying

, again, evaluating, Is my heart right?

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is it out of fear of man or is it

because I desire to bring you glory?

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Sylvia: Don't you think it's

so important for us to go back

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to strong willed children?

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We don't throw in the towel

on strong willed children.

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Look in the Bible.

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Strong willed people, I raised a Peter.

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One of my children, Peter.

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Strong willed, impulsive, tenacious,

and yet that's who Jesus said,

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you know what, you're going to

be instrumental to the church.

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It didn't negate him being

part of his group of three.

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Instead, that perfect design of will,

And strength was utilized to get a

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church going to stand firm on hard

truth, and to really do amazing things.

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And when you read 1 and 2 Peter, the

truth is laid out so boldly and clearly

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as only a strong willed child would do.

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I had to fight discontentment

over having a strong willed child.

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I kept praying, how come I

didn't get a compliant child?

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How come I didn't get a compliant child?

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I will say one scripture that was

a bedrock for me was Psalm 84, 11.

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That says, The Lord God

is a sun and a shield.

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The Lord bestows favor and honor.

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No good thing does he withhold

from those who walk uprightly.

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And I had to take that scripture

almost daily and say, I wasn't

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withheld any good thing by being

given a strong willed child.

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He doesn't withhold one good thing

from those who walk uprightly.

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So somehow this strong willed

child is actually good.

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And God increased my faith,

increased my trust that this will

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is a good thing for our family.

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It's a good thing for your glory.

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It's good for that child.

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And so now give me your wisdom to

parent it and give me the strength.

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I'm pretty sure it was Betsy

that said that plus one.

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We just need to win that next battle.

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That perspective from entrusted is a

game changer, cause we can look ahead

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and say, do I have 15 years of this now?

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Am I going to battle this

for the next 20 years?

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Is this going to be the rest of my life?

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And then you actually get to see

this glorious gift as you win battle

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after battle with the children.

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In a unifying way we're solving it the

way that we've been trained and entrusted.

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We aren't winning this battle and

one person feels like they won and

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one person feels like they lost.

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We're winning because we won together

in unity as we sought the Lord

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and, asked for forgiveness together

and sought His principles together

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and moved forward in Him in love.

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You're moving forward together

in great unity and it's a

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win, but the cool thing comes.

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Yes, you fought the battle

when there were three.

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Yes, you thought it, fought

it when it was five and it's

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hard and it's ongoingly hard.

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However, then they get to high school

and peer pressure comes their way.

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And guess what you find out that same

strong will that had no problem saying no

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to mom has absolutely no problem saying

no to the temptations of the world.

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So keep the end view in mind, like

God hasn't given you less than by

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giving you a strong willed child.

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God hasn't given you less than

by giving you a child with a

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personality opposite yours.

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God hasn't given you

less than in anything.

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No good thing does He withhold

from those who walk uprightly.

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Your child's personality is forming

them to be who He needs them to

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be for His plan and His glory.

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But it's also shaping us.

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I'm a much better, loving,

compassionate, tender listener

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to people because I learned how

to handle a strong willed child.

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I can be more empathetic.

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I'm much less, I'm embarrassed to

say this, but it's true, I'm much

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less judgmental of other moms.

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I didn't think I had that problem.

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Until I had a strong willed child,

I would see a mother battling a

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strong willed child in a grocery

store and I wanted to walk over

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and give them a solution to that.

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Have you ever thought about this?

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And God in his kindness revealed to

me that we are all desperate people

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needing Him and needing His wisdom.

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And as a result, I've been able

to love parents through difficult

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seasons without casting judgment.

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I've been able to come alongside of

them and offer encouragement because

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God is the God of all comfort, right?

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And why does He comfort us?

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So we can comfort others, it

tells us in 2 Corinthians.

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It was perfect for the role I'm even in.

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He taught me and now by

extension, I get to teach others.

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And so not one personality or

experience with our children is wasted.

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Stephanie: Absolutely.

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And I think when we look at How the

disciples were around Jesus and they

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still fought and Peter was still

impulsive and interrupted and said

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things that were against God's will.

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And I had to correct my thinking

that my children's behavior is

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not a referendum on my parenting.

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It's much more how I respond to it.

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And because if the disciples were

still sinning around Jesus, sometimes

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it is what we tolerate, but often

it's their sin nature coming out and

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am I going to respond in a Godly way.

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Am I going to point them

to the good and right way?

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Will I take this opportunity

to correct in righteousness?

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But I don't need to take that on.

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I don't need to own the

sins of my children.

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I just need to be faithful

to point them to Him.

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Sylvia: We always say at our house

my response is my responsibility.

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So my response to the Word of God,

if I'm going to heed it and obey it

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and forsake sin, my responsibility.

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My response to Mark, my husband,

is, am I going to submit?

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And honor and tenderly speak to him.

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My response is my

responsibility to the kids.

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Their response to us as parents,

to authority, to teachers,

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to people, coaches, people

they encounter in their life.

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Their response is their responsibility

to each other as siblings.

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That's a God principle that we find

throughout the Bible, even though

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those words, I'm rephrasing, right?

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But ultimately, We must respond to

all things biblically, regardless of

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the situation that we find ourselves

in, regardless of our children's

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response to us, how then we respond

to their disobedience, whether we

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will stay in a way that is tender.

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Bearing with them bearing with them

in love, but love speaks truth.

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And so we are responsible to raise them up

in the fear and instruction of the Lord,

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whether they are kicking and screaming or

whether they're, saying, thank you, mom.

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Stephanie: Are there any other

struggles in motherhood that you've

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experienced that really forced

you to rely on the Lord's strength

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Sylvia: For me it actually started

with the pregnancy of my second child

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we went in for the 20 week ultrasound

where, you get to find out is it a boy

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or a girl, is it a boy or a girl, and

we were all excited and as they were

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doing the ultrasound I kept thinking

they're so thorough here, our daughter

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was born in a different state than our

son and so I thought, oh, they must

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just do it different here and yeah.

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The ultrasound continued for quite some

time, and then when the doctor came

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in, we were just like, Oh, it's a boy,

it's a boy, we're so excited, and at

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the top of his file folder was a bright

yellow sheet that was a referral to a

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specialist, and at that time, we were

told that our child was in danger.

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He had One and a half kidneys.

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He was likely never to be able to

use the bathroom independently.

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There was a high likelihood

that he would be born with Down

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syndrome or other disabilities.

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And so at that moment we had to face

what a lot of us have to face as moms,

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whether it's in the womb or with our

child when they're outside of the womb.

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Of course we know they were

born with Down syndrome.

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Created, at the moment of conception, and

so at this moment this was my child still

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but my child in my womb, and instantly

coming to terms with dreams that we had.

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Ideals that we had.

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Thoughts that we had, and coming to

terms with who we knew God to be.

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That's why we are in the Word of God

consistently, because when the moments

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of crisis hit us, regardless of where

we're at in our walk with our children

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and in our marriages and in life, when we

have God's Word stored up in our heart.

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It comes out, out of the overflow

of our hearts, our mouths

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speak, the Bible tells us.

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And we came home from that ultrasound,

obviously broken and scared and fear

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based and really looking at a whole

different life than what we had

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experienced with our oldest child.

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We rallied everyone we knew

to start praying for our son.

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Community is so important to all

of us as we raise our children.

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We developed at that point before he

was ever born, a strong team of prayer

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warriors that would pray with and for us.

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And so we went.

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to the specialist about an hour

and a half from where we live.

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And they said, yes, definitely.

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Your son is going to have

massive complications.

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He's likely never to

use the bathroom alone.

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He's likely to have a not

typical life experience.

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Long story short, we were

grounded in Psalm 145.

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There's a verse in Psalm 145 that says, On

the Glorious splendor of your majesty and

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on your wondrous works I will meditate.

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They shall speak of the might

of your awesome deeds and I

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will declare your greatness.

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And so that passage

became a lifeline for us.

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We're like, what are we

going to meditate on?

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Psalm 145 tells us on the

glorious splendor of his majesty.

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I'm not going to meditate on

the potential fears of what my

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child's life is going to look like.

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I'm not going to meditate on what

does it look like to raise a special

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needs child and who am I to do it?

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No, I'm going to meditate on

the glorious splendor of his

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majesty and on his wondrous work.

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And this child is a wondrous work.

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Whether I understand all the dynamics

of that or not, I trust the word

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of God and he is a wondrous work.

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Long story short, he was born and he came

out of our womb and we didn't know We

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didn't know at all what our future was

going to look like, but we did know who

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held our future and we knew that it was a

faithful God that was trustworthy when we

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understood it, trustworthy when we don't.

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The only complication that he had is

that he has chronic kidney disease,

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which just means that he lives a life

where he has to be cautious , he only

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has one kidney, so that's unique.

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But in God's goodness and

in God's sovereignty, he had

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one and a half in the womb.

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And the week before he was born, he

still had one and a half kidneys.

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We had everyone praying that half

kidney would shrivel up because doctors

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had told us if by chance half kidney

would shrivel up, his function in

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life would exponentially increase.

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And the week before he was born, we

saw the specialist and they're like

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he still has one and a half kidneys,

and I'm like I'm not done praying.

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He hasn't been born yet.

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And so we called everyone.

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Pray with us.

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Pray for us.

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Pray for Zach.

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Pray that half kidney shrivels

up and people are like, I don't

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understand why I'm praying this.

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I'm like, just trust us.

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Pray it.

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Long story short, he was

born with one kidney only.

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All glory to God.

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Stephanie: praise the Lord!

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Sylvia: And though that one kidney

has chronic kidney disease, he

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does not need accommodations.

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He's able to use the restroom.

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You would never meet him

and know a thing is wrong.

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In fact, that is our child that later

participated in Junior Olympics.

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And none of that could we have seen.

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Now is God good because

of where he's at now?

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No, we made that decision in the womb that

God is worthy of our adoration and our

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love and our worship because of who he is.

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And that's my challenge.

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If you have experienced in the womb or out

of the womb, a dream as a mom that just

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doesn't seem to come to fruition, maybe

you really wanted a child that shared

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your passion for knitting or crocheting

or reading or sports or anything, no

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good thing has he withheld from you.

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There's not one good thing

that God has withheld from you.

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On the glorious splendor of his majesty

and on his wondrous works, focus on it.

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Amen.

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Focus on that, whatever your situation,

wherever you're at with your child.

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It is not outside of the good plan

of our God, who is 100 percent good,

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100 percent faithful, 100 percent

just, and 100 percent caring.

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All of the time.

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He knows.

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He loves you.

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He loves your child and

he loves his children.

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Stephanie: I love that you learned to

fight and battle for him before he was

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even here and the fruit of your faith

that was developed in that season, then

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I can see how that fire that continued to

bless your children as you raised them.

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That what the Lord was doing

in you was just as important as

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what he was doing in your son.

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Sylvia: And it's a wonderful thing

if you've been through struggle

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with your children before they have

memory of it, tell them about it.

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We are to tell the next generation

of the good works of God so that

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we don't forget and they don't

forget and they can pass it on.

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Like for Zach to know, listen,

dude, your life is a miracle.

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It's a miracle.

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Amen.

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Every aspect of you breathing,

living, walking, using the

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restroom, for pity's sake.

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Thank goodness he's a boy and they

don't mind to talk about that.

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Every aspect of your life is

nothing short of a miracle.

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Number one.

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Number two, the church has value.

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Those people rallied for you.

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They prayed for you.

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They were invested in you.

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Who can you be praying for now?

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Who are you?

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What's the impossible prayer of someone

else that you're willing to go before

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the throne of God on their behalf for?

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So that also gets them off of

themselves a lot of times, too, to

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remind them of God's faithfulness and

what He's done for them and how we

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get to extend that then to others.

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Their life isn't isolated

to their little world.

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Their life is all about bringing in God.

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More people to see the excellencies

of God, bringing in more people to

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proclaim the excellencies of God, showing

them His work, preaching the gospel.

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The more that we are faithful to share

of what God has done and really lay

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out for them, do you see God's hand?

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Do you see God's hand?

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Do you see God's hand?

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Let's pray.

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They will begin to

process that way as well.

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And then as they get older, again,

something I can speak to with years

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under my belt, our kids will say, isn't

it funny how God did this at this age?

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And now I'm seeing a little inkling

of what he had in mind with that.

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And then.

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Sometimes they'll say, I still don't know

why God allowed or ordained this situation

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in my life, but this I can say, I've seen

His hand in too many other things to not

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trust that this too will bear fruit for

His glory in some way, shape, or form.

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Teaching our kids that verse in

Philippians, that He who began a good

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work in you will be faithful to complete

it is so important because our children

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need to also grow in their faith.

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Faith, and build their spiritual muscles

that way to trust God that, listen, He

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began a good work in you, in the womb.

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He began a good work in you if, once

they've given their life to Jesus Christ,

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and of course we know that's in God's

hands, we will point them to Him, point

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them to His Word, teach the truth, and

ask God in His grace to save their souls.

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But when, when they receive Christ, if

they receive Christ, that's an important

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time to say, yeah, He began, and you're

a new creation at that point, and He's

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going to be faithful to complete the work.

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He has for you in his perfect

plan with his good purpose.

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So keep your eyes open for what you see

him doing, so that you can see, Oh, I

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do believe he's driving towards this,

or what's happening in your life is

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not outside of the realm of what God

will use to get to that landing point.

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Faithful to complete it.

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And of course we know

that means in heaven.

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So we've got a lifetime to see

God work all things for good.

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And that's an important training tool

as your kids continue to age too.

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Stephanie: We know you're busy,

Mama, so we are truly grateful you

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Before you go, I want to pray

this benediction over you

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from 2 Thessalonians 1, 11 12.

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We're rooting for you.

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To this end, we always pray for you,

that our God may make you worthy of His

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calling, and may fulfill every resolve

for good and every work of faith by

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His power, so that the name of our Lord

Jesus may be glorified in you, and you in

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Him, according to the grace of our God.

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And the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Amen.

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Until we meet again.