Episode 84
#84. Summer Series: The Never-Ending Again of Meal Planning Gets As Simple As Possible! | Part 1
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We can avoid laundry for awhile. We can put off cleaning. We can let those dishes pile up, but if the kids are hungry they are going to let us know! If meal planning feels more like an unceasing punishment and less like a picnic, listen in as Jen and Steph talk about ways to reduce decisions to make this unavoidable, repetitive task feel less overwhelming!
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Transcript
Welcome to the Again
podcast summer series.
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:I'm your host, Stephanie Hickox, and this
is brought to you by Entrusted Ministries.
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:This summer, we've selected some of our
favorite episodes that we think help
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:set the tone for biblical motherhood
in our hearts, but also have great
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:practical wisdom for you to apply.
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:I've shortened these as much as I can,
so you can get what you need as quickly
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:as possible and get back to swimming,
splashing, and snuggling those kiddos.
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:Whether your summer is a bunch of
schedule managing or a blank open
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:canvas to architect, we pray that
you find time to sit at the feet of
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:Jesus and to enter in with your kids.
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:Today, Jen Frackman joins me for this
replay, and we talk about the tools that
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:we've learned and the tips that have
saved our sanity in the Unceasing Task of
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:meal preparation Today, you'll just hear
part one of that episode because there's
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:so much to tackle with meal planning,
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:we know there are so many tips that
we don't talk about because there is
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:an abundance of information out there,
but we hope this just inspires you to
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:develop a system that works for you.
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:Keep coming back because
part two will be next week.
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:In an earlier episode, we had
set the mindset already for the
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:heart that we want to have behind
bringing order in our homes.
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:I'll link that in the show notes
because we certainly don't want to
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:have routines just for routine We want
to have our days ordered by the Lord.
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:Before I get to this conversation with
Jen Reman, I want to share an idea I
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:came up with at the beginning of this
summer that my kids are absolutely
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:loving, and that has brought me a
lot of freedom in meal planning.
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:I sat down with a few of my kiddos
at the beginning of the summer and we
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:created a three week meal routine that
we're just going to cycle as long as we
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:need to to get us through the summer.
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:We created a different genre
for every night of the week.
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:So for example, we have a Mexican
night, an Asian night, an Italian
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:night, a soup night, a grilling night,
and a pizza night, and we just put
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:in there some really simple meals
that everyone's pleased with that
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:require very little thought on my part
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:as I am really working on some
big projects this summer, it's so
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:helpful to know that my meal plan
is taken care of and very simple.
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:And then when I go to just grab
the ingredients, I can decide,
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:okay, it's quesadilla night.
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:Am I just gonna grab the basics
or do I have the capacity to
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:add a bunch of fun toppings?
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:Perhaps that would be a really
simple way to get your kids involved
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:and to take that mental load off
of your shoulders for the summer.
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:And now to that conversation
with the amazing Jen Breckman.
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:Stephanie: And now we're going to give
you some practical Meal planning tips
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:that we've developed over the years,
what we found works and what doesn't,
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:You will cook for your children if
you calculate three meals a day for 18
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:years, it equals about 19, 000 meals.
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:So just give yourself permission
to say, that is a lot.
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:And there's a reason that
this is overwhelming.
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:There's a reason that we just
don't know what to make anymore.
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:Then sometimes you add in food allergies
or food sensitivities or diets or things
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:you feel called to by wisdom you've
encountered and it gets very tricky to
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:meal plan and we are so blessed in our
day and age to have so many options
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:and so many resources and yet it's very
overwhelming decision fatigue is a real
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:thing and I feel that as a mother a lot
with the amount of decisions we make.
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:So Jen and I strongly feel that it's
hard to be so intentional in your home
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:if you don't have a plan for this thing
that comes up three plus times a day.
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:So if you know you're going to be
encountering meal planning and people
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:are going to need to eat every day in
your home, let's have a system for it.
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:Let's
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:not have it take us off guard constantly.
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:And then you will find, oh, all
of a sudden there's a piece.
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:I can conquer something else.
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:I can think a little bit more
intentionally about other areas of
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:my life because that is covered.
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:And as with all systems, you develop a
little bit of a routine and then you know
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:where you can flex and where you can give.
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:We do want to say a very surprising
fact that we just learned.
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:Betsy's not on this episode because
she is cleaning up our lovely lunch
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:that we just had, but she said that
she would go to the grocery store and
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:she would just buy things and Then in
the morning, she would just think, what
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:do I want to make for dinner today?
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:Betsy is a picture of
hospitality and intentionality.
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:And that might be a little bit freeing
for you to realize that even with her
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:orderly personality, she chose a lot of
spontaneity, and that worked for her.
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:Jen and I homeschool, and I think we
don't have as much freedom at dinner time
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:to all of a sudden pull together that
we need a little bit more of order and,
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:Jen: yeah,
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:Stephanie: jen, Tell us about your
meal planning routine currently.
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:Jen: Sure.
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:I used to be surprised every day
around four o'clock when the children
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:were asking what was for dinner.
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:I was like, Oh, that's right.
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:I need to
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:feed you again.
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:Shoot.
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:Stephanie: question.
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:Jen: I have no idea what sounds good.
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:And then I'd try to figure that out.
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:And as the children started getting
older, where they were, needing more
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:of a meal, you know, when they're
little and they eat what you're
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:eating and you just share your plate.
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:I used to call it the mommy diet because
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:everything I was
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:eating was cut in half because
the kid was going to eat it.
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:But once they got past that, where
I was making separate, soft foods
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:for them, that type of thing, I
started to do more meal planning.
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:As I mentioned in a different episode
about how we plan our week, I do
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:the meal planning on Saturdays.
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:And so I'll sit down with our calendar and
I'll decide what days I have the time to
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:be able to make a from scratch meal or a
halfway from scratch meal, whatnot, where
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:something that would require more chopping
and more sautéing and just as a longer.
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:Um, And so I'll put those meals on those
days where I have more time and the
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:times when I don't have as much time,
then I will go to a freezer meal that
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:I've made before and I can talk about
how I do that, but, or I'll do something
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:like frozen pizza, but very rarely do
we eat out or to get taken just with
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:food allergies and just the cost of it.
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:It just, it's hard.
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:We end up eating at home so much more.
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:But so what I do for making ahead and
freezing, what I do is if I am making
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:a meal and it's going to be like a from
scratch meal, I will double the recipe.
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:Sometimes I'll triple it, dependent.
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:We will eat as much as we can that
evening and all of the leftovers I
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:take and I put into these wonderful
things that I found on Amazon.
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:called super cubes and,
but it's S O U P E R, like
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:Stephanie: oh
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:Jen: cubes.
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:They come in one or two cup
cubes and they're silicone, but
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:they're like food grade silicone.
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:So
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:you
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:put your soup or you put your
leftover food in that and it
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:freezes them into these nice little.
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:Cubes.
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:And then I take those frozen cubes.
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:So I freeze them in that for a couple
hours or a day, and then I'll take
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:them out of the freezer and take
them and I'll put them either in our
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:glass jars or in our, if a baggie or
something to keep them in the freezer.
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:But I have them all labeled and it, I
know that this portion feeds one person.
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:Then I try to put, if I have
Doubled or tripled the recipe.
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:I'll try to put it as we have
six people in our family.
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:So I'll put the six in one
bag so I can pull that out.
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:And here's a full meal.
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:All I need is a side.
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:And sometimes I'll put on there
pair with rice, pair with a sweet
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:potato, something like that.
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:So that I can give me an idea
quickly to be like, Oh, I have that.
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:I could pair that with this.
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:Stephanie: So
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:Jen: that's been super helpful.
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:Really handy for those nights
when you want a home cooked
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:meal, but you don't have time.
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:Stephanie: Yes, several similarities.
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:We rarely eat out or order
takeout I do the Cook once,
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:eat twice, I think it's called.
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:Also where you're just doubling something.
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:So if I'm ever doing something
like making a chicken pot pie,
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:I double that and freeze one.
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:And it does take longer,
but not double, right?
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:Yes.
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:It's longer, but not double.
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:I found.
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:Especially when the kids were
little, that was just great.
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:, I'm cooking every other day, basically.
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:Or often I'd make a double portion.
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:That helped really a lot when they were
younger because they didn't eat as much.
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:So I would just double the recipe and
we would eat it two nights back to back.
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:And financially That works out
well because, maybe you're buying
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:cilantro for a recipe, but you're not
using the whole thing of cilantro.
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:But if you double the recipe, now you are.
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:And just, it, so that helps financially,
but also it helps with my time a lot.
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:And it's okay, now I have so much more
time to push you on the swings tonight
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:because the leftovers are in the fridge.
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:And maybe remake rice fresh, but you
have the stir fries already made.
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:Meal planning is one of those things
where we have had a lot of food
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:allergies and food sensitivities
to work around over the years.
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:And I felt like every time I would
curate my list of recipes that worked
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:well, something else would happen.
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:It was every couple years, or
every year and a half, and you're
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:like, Oh my goodness okay now
we're dairy gluten and egg free.
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:Now we're this, now we're that, now
we're And it's okay, everybody except my
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:husband can have cashews, that's great.
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:So let's have some recipes, with cashews.
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:And then all of a sudden my
daughter was allergic to cashews.
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:That's been, a huge barrier to
creating consistency for us.
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:But I did eventually, I made some
Pinterest boards, and I created
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:one called Recipes to Try, and
then one called Tried It, Loved It.
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:So
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:once I tried a recipe and everybody
liked it, I would move it to
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:the Tried It, Loved It board.
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:And eventually I had this list
that was quite comprehensive and
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:one night I decided, okay, fine, I
am finally going to get this done.
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:And I printed out a ton of recipes,
put them in page protectors
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:and put them in a binder.
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:My goal was to have a hundred
recipes, but once I started, it's
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:maybe it's only 60 or something, but.
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:I have a good chunk of recipes
and different seasonal ones in
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:there that it's like everybody
in our family can eat these.
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:I can make adaptations if I need to.
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:And just having that physical binder in my
kitchen, then if I want to go meal plan,
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:I just pull it down and I page through and
say, Oh, we haven't had this in a while.
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:Let's make that this week.
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:And so I'd put it on a
list for our meal plan.
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:I do have a list in the front of
really simple things you know, maybe
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:sourdough grilled cheese and tomato
soup, or something that's so simple.
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:And when you look at a week and you're
thinking, I don't have time to make those
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:fresh from scratch meals all week, I will
put a couple of those easy ones on every
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:week and then a couple of harder ones.
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:For me, it does work well
to not assign the day.
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:Usually.
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:I don't always assign the day.
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:I feel like things come up with work
often and I don't know is this going
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:to be the night where I can make that.
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:And so sometimes it's okay I thought
I was going to make a harder dinner
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:tonight, but it's going to be simple.
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:But then towards the end
of the week, you're like I
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:bought all those ingredients.
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:I've got to make that, make
the longer ones at some point.
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:Jen: some
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:Currently, we
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:Stephanie: currently we are part of
a food share, which is an incredible
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:blessing, but requires a lot of
flexibility and a lot of creativity.
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:Every Sunday one of four families
will go to this wonderful, healthy
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:food store and they give us everything
that's about to expire, or maybe it
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:was discontinuing tons of produce that
just has a bump or a bruise on it.
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:And we fill our van to the brim.
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:Bring it, and the four families divide
it up, and it is an incredible blessing.
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:But I never know what I'm getting,
and so I'm pretty intentional that
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:by Sunday morning I want very little
in my fridge, because I want to be
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:able, to steward what's coming to
me, I'm really careful about that.
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:Let's use up what we have, while just
making sure that I always have a ton
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:of eggs on hand, things like that
don't usually come from the food chair.
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:But there are times where you're
just filled with overflowing.
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:You're like, oh my goodness,
so much manna this week.
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:And then there are times where
I'm thinking, I don't know what
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:I'm going to make for dinner
tonight because it wasn't as much.
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:So I do have to have
backups in the freezer.
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:And I find that, just having frozen
chicken and frozen ground beef That I
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:can pull out and, make and of course,
always have rice on hand and some of
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:those staples to supplement that I
could always pull something together.
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:That really helps, but I would say I
pray a lot as I'm food planning and I
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:just, as I'm getting the things, I'm
like, Lord, what could I make with this?
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:And it's almost a fun thing of what
can we make and we have such a creative
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:God so I feel I'm trying to embrace the
joy of that and then to be stretched
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:too and sometimes we get things like
artichokes and I'm, Googling recipes
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:and I'm like, this is way too much work.
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:I'm sorry, Lord.
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:I can't steward the artichokes, but
those five bags of Brussels sprouts,
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:like great, let's do something with them.
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:Or those hundred bananas, let's
freeze a ton for smoothies, so it's a
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:stewardship process, but such a blessing.
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:But I just want to be honest that my
meal planning looks a lot different now.
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:So with that, Jen, I wanted to know, what
are a couple easy dinners that you have?
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:Jen: So we have a little system where
I don't want to be a short order cook.
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:I,
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:Stephanie: Amen.
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:Jen: and
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:so what I do is I'll make a meal, I'll
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:print out a recipe, and I will try it.
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:And then after everybody has tried
it and we have eaten the meal, I will
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:say to everybody, I will go around the
table and I'll say, what did you think?
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:Would you put it in the rotation?
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:And they'll say, yes.
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:Loved it.
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:Let's put it in the rotation.
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:And so I'll make a note on that.
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:Everyone liked it.
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:If somebody didn't like it,
but the majority did, I'll say,
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:it wasn't Josiah's favorite.
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:That type of thing.
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:That way I'm a little bit more
mindful not to always have that meal
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:if he really just doesn't like it.
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:But I, Find ones where everybody likes it.
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:And I always have those types of.
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:Things in the pantry so
that I can make it quickly.
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:We have a stroganoff meal.
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:We have a bolognese that's
an easy one to make.
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:I have a chicken and
rice meal that's easy.
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:I often keep Costco's rotisserie chicken.
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:They have it like in a package where
they've done all the work of pulling it.
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:And it's just the meat in
a package and it's frozen.
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:I keep that in my freezer.
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:And if for some reason I'm having
more people coming or I have something
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:where I just need more protein in it,
I'll quickly thaw that and add it to
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:pasta or to something that I'm making
so that it just extends my life.
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:The quantity.
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:Stephanie: Sure.
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:Jen: So those little staples help a lot
or having the Costco has grilled chicken
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:breasts that they come already in like
a chicken sandwich and we have those on
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:hand and so if for some reason it's a
busy night and I couldn't get to the meal
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:that I thought I was going to get to.
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:I can easily grill those on the stovetop
and add an egg to it or, something,
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:and we've got a chicken sandwich.
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:Always trying to have
those things on hand.
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:But one of my favorite tips for this
is as the kids get older is to teach
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:each of them a meal that they can make.
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:We did this a while back
with each of the kids.
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:Olivia picked a meal.
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:She could pick any meal she wanted.
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:And she made it for the whole family.
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:I provided all of the ingredients.
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:She had to tell me ahead
of time and she made it.
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:And the beauty of it was
one, she got to understand.
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:How long it takes to cook a meal
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:and all the
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:effort that goes into it.
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:Josiah did the same thing.
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:He got to pick a meal and he
did a wonderful job, but he
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:also learned how long it takes.
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:It's not an easy thing to just come
up with a meal and you're planning it.
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:You're going to the store, you're
getting the ingredients, you're spending
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:your money on it, you're chopping
the vegetables, you're spending time
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:doing this and then you're waiting
for it to cook and then you sit down
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:and if you sit down at the table
and someone is being a picky eater
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:or is just being rude and saying, I
don't want to try it, that's hurtful.
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:So
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:we've, we have talked about table manners
of how In our family, they're not allowed
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:to say, I'm not going to eat that.
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:Or I don't like that.
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:They have to at least try it.
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:You have to swallow one bite.
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:Like
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:you may not
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:make a decision and judge this meal
before you've swallowed one bite.
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:But when I go do ask them
what do you think about this?
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:Do you want it in the rotation?
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:They're allowed to say,
thank you for making it.
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:It's not my favorite yet.
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:And
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:that's my clue that yeah,
mom this was not good.
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:I don't like it, but it respects me
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:for all
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:the time and effort that was put into it.
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:But
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:also the beauty of having them do
that is they understand how hurtful
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:it is and how disappointing it is.
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:And.
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:I pray as I'm making the meals, I pray
that everyone would enjoy it, that it
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:would nourish us well, that it would
fill our love bank to know that I made
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:this meal for them, that they would
feel loved and cherished by this.
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:And then having them have a
meal that they know how to make.
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:If I'm in a pinch, I can call
them up and say, Hey, I can't make
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:it home in time to make dinner.
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:Will you please make your meal?
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:And they have the ingredients
at home and they can make it.
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:The other thing that we do is
as they're older, around 10, 11
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:years old, I give them a snack.
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:Side that they can make.
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:And Olivia, she knows how
to do the sweet potatoes.
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:She knows exactly how I like them
done, how we make it, everything on it.
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:And whenever we have a meal and the
side is the sweet potatoes, she helps.
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:Josiah's side is rice.
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:Whenever the meal is being made and
the side is rice, I'll be like, Hey,
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:Josiah, we're making rice tonight.
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:You got to come make it.
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:While I'm in the kitchen cooking,
Josiah's He's with me and it's so fun.
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:I have a buddy in the kitchen and we get
to talk and it's his goes much quicker
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:because it's just rice boiling on the
pot, but he's in the kitchen with me.
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:So
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:it's
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:been really sweet and it's also
been super helpful and it gives
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:them ownership in the meal as well.
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:Stephanie: Yes.
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:Oh, that's phenomenal.
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:I remember you talking about
them each making a meal and
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:I definitely want to do that.
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:I love what it produces in them
as well as it being super helpful.
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:I think my favorite thing that
I've ever done, too, with cooking
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:is having my kids cook with me.
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:Betsy talks about the 15 minutes a
day with your children, and I think
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:that's so important, but we homeschool.
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:And you're like, all right
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:Jen: 24 hours.
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:Like, how do
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:Stephanie: how do we count our minutes?
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:And I think just adjusting the mindset of.
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:That can be minutes where they're
helping me with something.
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:It doesn't have to be me sitting
down, going into their world or
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:playing Legos with them every day.
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:It can be them helping make the meal.
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:And so we have, I've done it
before where they each had a
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:different night to help me cook.
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:Jen: Oh, I like that.
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:Stephanie: And it, I think this is
best maybe in winter seasons where
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:it's cold outside, because I feel
when it's warmer outside, of course I
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:want them playing as much as possible.
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:So it was more of a winter or fall idea.
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:They would each have a night
to help me make things.
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:And we did do a brief
stint with a meal service.
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:And I'm trying to remember the name
of the one we used because it really
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:wasn't It wasn't as expensive.
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:It was a pretty reasonable one.
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:Especially if you did like
the introductory deal.
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:So we didn't do it for that long, but
it was neat because the directions were
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:nicely printed out about everything.
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:And I was learning something
new too, so it was like we're
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:learning a recipe together.
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:Yeah.
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:And then I would let them even help
pick out the meals that were coming.
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:That was fun and it just was a sweet time
to talk and to teach them those skills.
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:One on one.
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:Jen: Mm hmm.
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:Stephanie: often we're one on four, right?
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:Yeah.
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:So I like teaching them to
grate the cheese and yeah.
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:Everything together.
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:And that's cool.
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:Right now what I'm doing is my oldest,
one of his roles is to help cook.
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:He's my assistant chef for the summer.
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:I feel like I'm wanting to train him.
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:That by the end of the summer, he
would know how to make a lot of things.
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:This doesn't mean that he has to do things
every day, but it means often I'm going
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:to pull him in if it's a great time.
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:I'm also trying to pull him into the
meal planning and the grocery shopping
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:of it, and starting to trying to teach
him a little bit about even the budget,
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:like that we've got to
make this last all month.
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:And we can't just have filet every night
in week one or And it that's been such
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:a blessing really that he's starting to
make these sourdough grilled cheeses And
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:he adds different things for texture and
he loves that so he's becoming famous
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:in our home for that and I mean, I
think it's going to be such a blessing
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:if my boys do get married someday that
they know how to cook and they've been
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:a part of that, then they'll be more
grateful towards their spouse when
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:they cook, but then also that they're
willing to take on some of that too.
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:Do you have a takeaway?
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:I hope so.
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:If you do write it down.
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:Do you know that you're so much
more likely to accomplish something?
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:When you actually take that
step of writing it down.
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:Maybe you don't have time to develop
a whole new system, but maybe
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:you can just change one thing.
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:To make this area of your life.
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:Simplified.
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:If you found.
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:Hope peace or encouragement
through this podcast.
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either share this episode, share
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:So other moms can find it too.
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:Thanks for listening.
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:We know you're busy, Mama, so
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:Before you go, I want to pray
this benediction over you
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:from 2 Thessalonians 1, 11 12.
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:We're rooting for you.
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:To this end, we always pray for you,
that our God may make you worthy of His
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:calling, and may fulfill every resolve
for good and every work of faith by
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:His power, so that the name of our Lord
Jesus may be glorified in you, and you in
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:Him, according to the grace of our God.
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:And the Lord Jesus Christ.
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:Amen.
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:Until we meet again.