Episode 64

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12th Dec 2024

#64. Can Christmas Still Be Meaningful If Mom Sits Down Too? + Our Thoughts on Jolly Old Saint Nick

Betsy, Emily, Jen, and Steph could talk forever about creative ways to celebrate the coming of the Savior! But thankfullly for you, we've taken our best tips and resources from our 4-part Christmas series last year, so you can listen quickly and then put them into practice! You'll hear favorite recipes, gift-giving tips, and thoughts on keeping Jesus pre-eminent! Being a Christian mom is never more fun than at Christmastime, but it can also be exhausting! We hope these tips give you permission to relax!

Recipes:

Berry French Toast Casserole

Links to The Full Christmas Episodes:

Part 1: Advent Episode

Part 2: Traditions to Solve Holiday Dilemmas

Part 3: Our Thoughts on Santa, The Talk, and More

Transcript
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They're the joyful agains our children

shout on the swings, the exhausting

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agains of cooking and laundry, and

the difficult agains of discipline.

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So much of what we do

as mothers is on repeat.

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So what if we woke up with clarity,

knowing which agains we were called

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to, and went to bed believing we

are faithful in what matters most?

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We believe God's Word is

the key to untangle from the

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confusion and overwhelm we feel.

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Let's look up together to embrace a

motherhood full of freedom and joy.

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Welcome back to the weekend podcast.

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I'm your host, Stephanie Hickox.

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And this is brought to you

by entrusted ministries.

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Last Christmas season, Jen Frackman

Emily deal, Betsy Corning, and I sat

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down for a lengthy conversation covering

all of our Christmas decorating tips.

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Favorite recipes, advent

recommendations, and more.

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But I know you're busy and

I have taken the best clips.

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So you can really get that information

right away and get to your traditions.

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Of course, if you'd like to listen

to the episodes in their entirety,

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I will link those in the show notes.

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This episode will cover our

favorite Christmas recipes.

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How we decide if a tradition

is sustainable and how we

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try to keep things simple.

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We'll also cover some of our

thoughts on gift-giving with

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our children and with siblings.

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And one of our favorite traditions

that actually helps us relax.

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Then we'll wrap up with talking about.

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Our ideas on Santa's perhaps

you've been developing some

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convictions of your own and you'd.

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Enjoy.

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Listening to where the Lord has

personally brought us on this topic.

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And you might appreciate knowing

that we didn't all line up with

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the same ideas on this subject.

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All right.

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Let's get to it.

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We'll start by talking about

our favorite Christmas recipes.

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Betsy: We make, and

it's the simplest thing

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in the world, is to make, peppermint bark.

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And, just you buy the guitared

white chocolate chips and buy

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some peppermint canes that you

crunch up, or you can buy it.

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already crunched even, and that's it.

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You can add vanilla.

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Little bit of milk, but you just want

the consistency of the chocolate to stay

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smooth and pour it in a pan and then put

it in the refrigerator and break it apart.

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It's the easiest thing.

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And so we make that a lot.

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You can put a layer of

chocolate on it if you

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want to underneath,

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And lots of cookies.

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I'm always looking for fun,

colorful cookies to make.

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Stephanie: Birthday cake for

Jesus is number one, recipe

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that we just have to do that.

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A lot of times it's chocolate.

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And, I've even let them have scrambled

eggs and birthday cake for Jesus

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as a Christmas morning breakfast.

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Betsy: Uh, uh, uh,

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Stephanie: I

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Really like to make a French toast

casserole the night before then put

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that in while we're opening presents and

that makes for such a peaceful Christmas

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morning and I keep My son that's a little

bit more introverted than my other three

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and he's a little bit of a night owl

often helps me as I'll send the others

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to bed and he'll help me make a French

toast casserole and he does a great job.

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There's a creme brulee one I like and then

a berry sourdough one which it doesn't

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call for sourdough bread but I changed

it to sourdough and then I used oat milk

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and it turned out pretty great recently.

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Jen: We do a charcuterie tray and

I like it because I am not stuck

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to making one specific thing.

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They just know that there's

going to be a spread on it.

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And so I enjoy that because I can be

creative each year and be like what

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do I want to put in at this year?

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What is fun for this part?

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We do have, we make a

Christmas birthday cake.

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And we'll do, I do a French toast

bake, that type of thing as well.

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But throughout the day, we

just munch as the day goes on.

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And so we open up a gift

and then we'll have a.

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I sit down breakfast and then the rest of

the day we just munch but my favorite is

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just not having to feel the pressure as

much of Oh, it has to be this one thing.

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whatever is easy in that moment.

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I had a friend years ago tell me that she

was always careful to make a tradition.

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that she knew she could keep.

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And I was like, that's a wise word.

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If it's something that's going to

be just taking too much time and

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energy and drains you, then that's

not life giving for you either.

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And she had mentioned that.

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Her grandma always made special blueberry

muffins and so she tried to do that, but

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she's there were some years where Costco

blueberry muffins were put in the fold

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and they were still blueberry muffins.

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And I just, I find that so

peaceful for me to remember yes.

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It's okay if it doesn't work out when

the baby is little and nursing, or it's a

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hectic year that it's the being together.

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But if the blueberry muffins was a special

thing, then let Costco make it that year.

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If it's too hard, you know, you still

have them, but Costco can do it.

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But I do, I aspire towards

that and I love that?

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if I'm feeling overwhelmed

to be like, okay.

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Can we do that?

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Still has the memory behind

it, but that might not be so

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hard on me.

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Stephanie: That's such a wise word.

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About counting the cost of the

traditions that we commit to, one

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year, so embarrassing, I served my

mother in law frozen pizza, not even

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good frozen pizza but frozen pizza

for our Christmas dinner you're

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planning for so many different things.

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And it had like Christmas and

our Christmas Eve planned.

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And then we were going

to have family in town.

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and then she came early.

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we went shopping that day and

shopping took longer than we expected.

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And then I like, maybe we can just

go to Costco and buy a pot pie.

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And we're standing in line with the pot

pie And realizing, oh my goodness, this

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takes forever to bake And, it's already

getting late and what are we going to do?

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And it ended up being a frozen pizza.

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And so now we laugh about it with

trying to make everything lovely

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yeah, I remember that one year

you served me pizza for Christmas.

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It's, it's good to be humbled some years,

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Betsy: takes,

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Stephanie: Yeah.

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Betsy: it takes a lot of planning

to have guests, not just for a meal,

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but for.

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Several days.

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Stephanie: instituted

Yalobakaflod a couple years ago,

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which I absolutely love it.

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Do any of you do it?

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Betsy: no, we

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Stephanie: Okay.

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And I am pretty sure that's

the correct pronunciation.

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I did look it up last year.

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Jalabakaflod.

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It is an Icelandic tradition

where on Christmas Eve, they

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exchange chocolate and books.

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And I have decided I, I just love

it because in all of the busyness of

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the traditions and making everything

special and feeding everyone, I

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feel like sometimes at the end

of it, did I just sit with them?

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Did I just enjoy it?

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Even when I'm together the Lego sets with

them, it's like you're still something.

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I just want to relax with them.

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And so we do, sometimes we do it the

night before Christmas Eve and sometimes

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on Christmas Eve, depending on how

our traveling schedule works out.

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But I buy a special book for each of

the kids and then give them chocolate.

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And, maybe it's their

favorite chocolate bar.

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And sometimes I'll make chocolate

lava cakes homemade hot chocolate and

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We Then, as they're getting older,

they'll read on their own for a while.

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And we'll be in our, Christmasy pajamas.

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Some of the kids, when they're

younger, buying like a treasury,

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like Madeline's the Treasury, all

of the books in one, or the Kevin

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Henkes books in one, been special.

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And so I would recommend to any moms

that feel like, where is the peace

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in all of this, in the busyness.

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And it is, it would be a hard thing

to do when your kids are really

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little and can't sit for too long.

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So I'm.

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Excited that I found out about it

when my kids were old enough just rest

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on the couch for a while together.

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Let's turn now to how we handle

gift giving in our homes.

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Jen: we do.

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Sibling Gifts, where we go to the

store and they use their own money

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to buy a gift for their sibling.

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Sometimes we will either do a bigger gift

and they'll draw names, or if they choose

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they want to do each of them buying a

gift, then we'll do a smaller amount.

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And then they can, you know, like

one year they went to five below

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and they picked for everybody.

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So they, each of them bought

three gifts to give, but then

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last year they decided

they wanted to spend

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20 and draw a name.

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And that was really sweet.

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Cause it was a

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little bit more of a nicer gift.

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And it was really fun

to see them pick it out.

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And they're, that is the gift

that they want to give right away.

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First thing, they don't

want to open a gift.

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They want to give their gift.

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And I love that.

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Stephanie: Absolutely.

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We do the same exact thing.

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Same price limit, everything

with the four kids.

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20 limit.

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They draw names and then,

but so excited about that

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Jen: Yeah.

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And I, also do what Betsy does

with writing a code on it.

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I, because they're, like the

size of the box they can guess.

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And so I'm known for putting like a

golf ball in it just to, to turn it.

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And it sounds different

and to throw them off.

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So I.

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Now I do have a code and so now when

they go down, they don't know I have, as

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I wrap it, I put it out and so there's,

right now there's gifts under the tree

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and they have no idea who it's for because

it has a code on it that only I know.

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So it's fun.

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They're like

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trying

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to guess and

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Stephanie: Legos.

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And so I will,

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Betsy: Oh!

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Stephanie: wrap up boxes of cereal a lot.

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And they'll, but they'll be

excited too because it's don't let

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them eat those kind of cereals.

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Anyway, and so then they're like, that's

still a great gift, but it's not the

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Legos that I thought I was getting.

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Yes, I the

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Betsy: because

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Stephanie: that's fun, yeah.

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Betsy: The, it is a really great,

it really helps a lot because if

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you're shopping for a large amount

of people, like you do when you're a

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grandma, it's really hard to keep it

really out balanced and even, and it

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is even if you have a number of kids.

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That really helps to have the envelope

or to go out on that shopping day.

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We really love that, but we also play

a good attitude game and that is this

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is just something a little extra I

do and this is a hard tradition to

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keep too because now I have to shop

for 18 people it's like a white

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elephant and you go around but there's

Lots of great presence in there,

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but there's always a clunker.

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And one year Johnny fell for the.

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Giant, beautiful box with the bent

up wire hangers and, but to, like

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you start the game and you say,

this is the good attitude game.

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Now you have nothing and you are going

to go home with something, but you

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have to have a good attitude about it.

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and you know what?

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They have an opportunity to trade

it out, but he had the very last

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opportunity to trade it out.

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And he traded for the.

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the.

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box, which now they never pick the

big fancy box, but, this year it

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was actually something really nice.

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Try not to make anybody too upset.

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And lots of times I will, pick it out

at the end, but no, we really want it

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to be, You know, have a good attitude.

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Now, when you play that

game, you know how it goes.

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You go all the way through the lineup

to number 18, but then we start over at

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number one and they can trade it out.

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So now they see everything.

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And by the way, they're wrapped

and they have a ribbon and they

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have to fish for it with a hook.

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It's a toy one.

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It's not a real fishing they

have to fish for their prize.

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it's set on a big table.

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And, always the game

within the game, we call it.

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It's really fun to watch them all.

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Oh my goodness.

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Fling that hook around was dangerous

this year with the little kids,

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so that's just a little extra thing

that you might do to, you feel

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like, Hey, they already know what

they're probably going to get.

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So I want to have

something that's a little

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Emily: So fun.

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Stephanie: we do the something you

want, something you need, something

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to do something to read, and then,

do a shared gift, so what you were

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saying, Jen, but this is their big

gift, and one year it was a fort

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building kit, and one year it was...

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food with this farm stand

when they were younger.

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I guess I like it because it's.

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It takes away part of that possessiveness

and greediness a little bit that this

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is to share and to enjoy together, but

you're still getting something special.

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And then I'm happy to spend a

little bit more on that item.

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One year we used all of our Costco rewards

for an entire year and then put all the

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aunt and uncle money and got a swing set.

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So was really exciting, but

I always have a fun challenge

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for them to open that gift.

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year we did a Christmas escape

room, and they had to solve

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all these puzzles to open it.

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One year, we had them figure

out how many gifts you would

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get in the 12 days of Christmas.

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It can go so quickly to open

up the gifts that they have.

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when they do this challenge together,

it extends the morning, I just like to

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hear the way that they encourage each

other and the teamwork that it produces.

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Also I should say when we give

the something to do, sometimes

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it's been a game that then

we'll play that as a family,

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I like the idea of the gift producing.

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An opportunity for family time.

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now let's talk a little bit

about our thoughts on Santa's.

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Does anyone have a strong conviction

or a strong preference on the topic?

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Emily: We always,

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Jen: Oh, sorry.

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Emily: we always, and we never,

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Jen: was so funny.

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We.

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Emily: No,

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We did set out cookies and milk

for Santa because we made all of

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those sugar cookies, but our kids

never, they knew Santa wasn't real.

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It was just a fun thing that

we just played along with.

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They knew it wasn't real, so we had fun

with it, but we never, but they knew.

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They knew all along.

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And I didn't grow up believing in Santa.

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But and the kids had fun with it.

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We would set it.

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out in a cute little vintage Santa mug.

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And we just had fun with it.

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And we always ask dad, like Jake,

what cookies Santa wanted this year.

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So we just enjoyed it.

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But they always knew

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the real meaning behind Christmas.

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Jen: We didn't do Santa.

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We just, I don't know we

never, we just never did.

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We told them from the beginning yeah,

people are going to ask you in the store,

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Santa's going to bring You and you can

just give them an answer and move on.

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But, they obviously knew about

Santa You can't, I don't think it's

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possible for people to not know about

Santa because everybody does it.

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This year, I actually had a friend

whose daughter, still believes in

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Santa and they go through great

extent to help her to keep that.

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Just magical for them.

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And so we had to talk to my youngest

about like, how do you handle that?

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Like it's not your job to

crush her dreams there.

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So just having to be careful about

that's just not what our family does.

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We're not against it.

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We just always wanted it.

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I always wanted our kids to feel

like we're telling them the truth.

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That's just a personal conviction for

us, that we just wanted to that they

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were hearing the truth from us, but

that's not to say that I think it's...

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Horrible.

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Stephanie: She'll

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still be friends with you Emily

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Jen: Yeah.

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Betsy: Well, I mean,

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There was a real Saint Nick,

so you can tell him about that,

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the idea is to be giving and charitable

yeah, the whole idea of Santa has

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definitely gone to the extreme.

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I would let my kids, if they wanted

to, get a picture with Santa, but

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they always knew that it wasn't, real.

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We always said, everything we have

comes from the Lord, not Santa.

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But, don't rain on people's parades

if they're pretty serious about it,

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except, I don't understand why people

would be really serious about it.

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Because there's other things that are

so much more serious and more important.

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But there's some pretty

cute things out there.

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But I just never bought

anything with Santa.

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We just never had Santa

in our house at all.

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He just wasn't in there.

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But not to say that we didn't

see a book that had Santa on it.

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Or that you might see, some

really cute little mugs, it's

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just a personal preference.

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You just have to know what the truth

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is and that everything

comes from the Lord.

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Stephanie: yeah, that's

a great distinction.

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When I was in college, I heard one

of, the guys in our campus ministry

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say, My parents didn't want to teach

us about Santa and teach us about

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God and have us find out Santa wasn't

real and think God wasn't real.

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And just at that moment, I was like, all

right, like my mind's made up and not

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because you can't do both, but because

like you said, Jen, that I want my kids to

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know that I will tell you the truth, but

I feel like it's such a displaced focus.

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Everything magical about

Santa is true of Jesus.

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he Rides through the clouds, you can

read in scripture about how, Jesus has

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returned and he's gonna come on the clouds

and the Santa, he sees you when you're

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sleeping, he knows when you're awake.

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I feel like when it's about Santa,

it's almost creepy and he's record

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keeping, but with the Lord, that's for

our protection and our goodness and

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tenderness, and he gives good gifts.

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And he's a generous father.

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All of the great things about

Santa are true of Jesus.

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And so why would I spend

time focusing on that?

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Betsy: Give his glory to another.

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Stephanie: Yes.

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I remember finding out that Santa

wasn't real and I was crushed and just

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I feel like, how could you lie to me

and felt like part of my childhood died.

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And so I think some even I have

some relatives that are like,

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how could you take that magical

part away from your children?

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But I feel no, I want to teach them.

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About all of that hope and

all of that pure heartedness.

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That's yes and amen and Jesus.

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And so you can, we can actually

steward that and encourage it by

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saying you're right, like you,

you were built for something

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magical, for something supernatural

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Emily: Yes.

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Yes.

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Betsy: And Jesus just doesn't

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disappoint when you hear

about who he really is.

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I'm never thought about that.

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I'm going to have to meditate on

that for a little while for sure.

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But really we might have strong thoughts

on it, but we know that it's a personal

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preference and Emily I'm sure that your.

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Vintage bug is adorable and we

would gladly drink out of them.

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If we were celebrating at your house.

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Betsy: I've

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seen some

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pretty cute

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Santa things I have.

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Jen: I find it would be

exhausting to keep it going.

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Like I would be like, Oh man,

we gotta keep doing this.

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And I don't just it freed me so much

to be like, yeah, he's not real.

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Sorry.

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Betsy: It's interesting that the two

main holidays, Christmas and Easter,

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there's secular view of, eclipsing that

with an Easter Bunny or Santa Claus.

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And where we feel the Santa Claus

is benevolent, I don't know what the

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Easter Bunny does, but Neither one

of those, even though we might have

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a bunny cake or an Easter egg hunt or

whatever, and we do that, it doesn't

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mean they know that Jesus reigns

supreme in everything and every day.

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But we also do love to do some

I love a good imagination and

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some fun and some creativity.

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And I think, imaginary things and

things with little children are fun.

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And I think that's the thing

that people are gravitating

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towards with their children.

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But we just have to be careful

that it never eclipses the true,

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one who never forsakes, never,

fails us, never disappoints us,

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Stephanie: We are looking

for more monthly donors.

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Even the smallest gifts are such a

blessing to us as we plan how to move

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forward with wisdom in the projects,

the Lord has laid on our hearts.

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If you've been blessed by this podcast

or by this ministry, please head to

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our website and to the donate page.

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And consider giving to help

us continue in our efforts to

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spread the glory of God in homes.

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We know you're busy, Mama, so

we are truly grateful you joined

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us for this episode of Again.

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If you're looking for more information

about building your home on the

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foundation of Jesus Christ, head to www.

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EntrustedMinistries.

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com to learn more about our study for

moms, Entrusted with a Child's Heart.

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This scripture saturated study

has blessed families around the

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world, and we want it for you, too.

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Before you go, I want to pray

this benediction over you

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from 2 Thessalonians 1, 11 12.

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We're rooting for you.

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To this end, we always pray for you,

that our God may make you worthy of His

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calling, and may fulfill every resolve

for good and every work of faith by

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His power, so that the name of our Lord

Jesus may be glorified in you, and you in

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Him, according to the grace of our God.

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And the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Amen.

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Until we meet again.

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Again
Biblical Motherhood Untangled
So much of what we do as mothers is on repeat. Join us to redeem this repetition and untangle from the confusion and overwhelm of parenting. We'll follow the Agains in the Bible to focus on the things that matter most. Let's look up together to embrace a motherhood full of freedom and joy! This podcast is sponsored by Entrusted Ministries.

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Stephanie Hickox

Stephanie has always delighted in God’s Word and in sharing it with others. Whether it is equipping mothers and leaders through Entrusted with a Child’s Heart, inspiring students when teaching at homeschool co-ops or children’s ministry, or homeschooling her own children, Stephanie’s life mission is to encourage others to follow faithfully and joyfully after Jesus—especially if they hold her favorite job title: mom.

Betsy Corning wrote Entrusted with a Child’s Heart in 1999 in response to the needs she saw in families as she and David counseled young parents just a few years behind them. Entrusted has been taught in hundreds of churches nationwide, been translated into several foreign languages, and has made its way around the world. More recently, Betsy received her Masters in Biblical Studies from The Master’s University and is developing a new Bible Study program called Get the Word Out. Her passion for God’s Word, discipleship, and teaching biblical principles as they apply to family life has remained strong to this day. One of the greatest blessings in Betsy’s life are her three grown children, their spouses, and ten grandchildren that keep her constantly in touch with every age and stage.

Jen Freckman Is an incredible wealth of wisdom. She will tell you a natural remedy for just about anything! She is also a voracious reader and she is just overflowing with quotes and guidance that she's encountered through reading and being faithful. She delights in her children and is a devoted mother. She is also an amazingly creative problem solver! Her solutions to manage her home and guide her children are inspiring.

Emily Deyo is such a treasure. She is an incredible encourager and servant-hearted woman. When she has the mic in front of her, so much value comes out! She is a wordsmith and her heart consistently beats for how she can encourage and serve others. She is a truly loving and attentive mother.

Join Betsy, Emily, Jen, and Stephanie as they share the wisdom only Scripture and on-the-job training can provide to help untangle the joyful calling of motherhood.