#64. Can Christmas Still Be Meaningful If Mom Sits Down Too? + Our Thoughts on Jolly Old Saint Nick
Betsy, Emily, Jen, and Steph could talk forever about creative ways to celebrate the coming of the Savior! But thankfullly for you, we've taken our best tips and resources from our 4-part Christmas series last year, so you can listen quickly and then put them into practice! You'll hear favorite recipes, gift-giving tips, and thoughts on keeping Jesus pre-eminent! Being a Christian mom is never more fun than at Christmastime, but it can also be exhausting! We hope these tips give you permission to relax!
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Transcript
They're the joyful agains our children
shout on the swings, the exhausting
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:agains of cooking and laundry, and
the difficult agains of discipline.
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:So much of what we do
as mothers is on repeat.
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:So what if we woke up with clarity,
knowing which agains we were called
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:to, and went to bed believing we
are faithful in what matters most?
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:We believe God's Word is
the key to untangle from the
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:confusion and overwhelm we feel.
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:Let's look up together to embrace a
motherhood full of freedom and joy.
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:Welcome back to the weekend podcast.
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:I'm your host, Stephanie Hickox.
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:And this is brought to you
by entrusted ministries.
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:Last Christmas season, Jen Frackman
Emily deal, Betsy Corning, and I sat
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:down for a lengthy conversation covering
all of our Christmas decorating tips.
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:Favorite recipes, advent
recommendations, and more.
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:But I know you're busy and
I have taken the best clips.
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:So you can really get that information
right away and get to your traditions.
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:Of course, if you'd like to listen
to the episodes in their entirety,
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:I will link those in the show notes.
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:This episode will cover our
favorite Christmas recipes.
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:How we decide if a tradition
is sustainable and how we
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:try to keep things simple.
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:We'll also cover some of our
thoughts on gift-giving with
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:our children and with siblings.
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:And one of our favorite traditions
that actually helps us relax.
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:Then we'll wrap up with talking about.
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:Our ideas on Santa's perhaps
you've been developing some
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:convictions of your own and you'd.
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:Enjoy.
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:Listening to where the Lord has
personally brought us on this topic.
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:And you might appreciate knowing
that we didn't all line up with
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:the same ideas on this subject.
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:All right.
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:Let's get to it.
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:We'll start by talking about
our favorite Christmas recipes.
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:Betsy: We make, and
it's the simplest thing
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:in the world, is to make, peppermint bark.
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:And, just you buy the guitared
white chocolate chips and buy
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:some peppermint canes that you
crunch up, or you can buy it.
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:already crunched even, and that's it.
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:You can add vanilla.
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:Little bit of milk, but you just want
the consistency of the chocolate to stay
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:smooth and pour it in a pan and then put
it in the refrigerator and break it apart.
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:It's the easiest thing.
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:And so we make that a lot.
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:You can put a layer of
chocolate on it if you
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:want to underneath,
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:And lots of cookies.
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:I'm always looking for fun,
colorful cookies to make.
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:Stephanie: Birthday cake for
Jesus is number one, recipe
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:that we just have to do that.
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:A lot of times it's chocolate.
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:And, I've even let them have scrambled
eggs and birthday cake for Jesus
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:as a Christmas morning breakfast.
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:Betsy: Uh, uh, uh,
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:Stephanie: I
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:Really like to make a French toast
casserole the night before then put
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:that in while we're opening presents and
that makes for such a peaceful Christmas
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:morning and I keep My son that's a little
bit more introverted than my other three
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:and he's a little bit of a night owl
often helps me as I'll send the others
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:to bed and he'll help me make a French
toast casserole and he does a great job.
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:There's a creme brulee one I like and then
a berry sourdough one which it doesn't
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:call for sourdough bread but I changed
it to sourdough and then I used oat milk
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:and it turned out pretty great recently.
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:Jen: We do a charcuterie tray and
I like it because I am not stuck
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:to making one specific thing.
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:They just know that there's
going to be a spread on it.
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:And so I enjoy that because I can be
creative each year and be like what
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:do I want to put in at this year?
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:What is fun for this part?
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:We do have, we make a
Christmas birthday cake.
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:And we'll do, I do a French toast
bake, that type of thing as well.
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:But throughout the day, we
just munch as the day goes on.
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:And so we open up a gift
and then we'll have a.
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:I sit down breakfast and then the rest of
the day we just munch but my favorite is
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:just not having to feel the pressure as
much of Oh, it has to be this one thing.
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:whatever is easy in that moment.
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:I had a friend years ago tell me that she
was always careful to make a tradition.
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:that she knew she could keep.
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:And I was like, that's a wise word.
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:If it's something that's going to
be just taking too much time and
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:energy and drains you, then that's
not life giving for you either.
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:And she had mentioned that.
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:Her grandma always made special blueberry
muffins and so she tried to do that, but
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:she's there were some years where Costco
blueberry muffins were put in the fold
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:and they were still blueberry muffins.
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:And I just, I find that so
peaceful for me to remember yes.
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:It's okay if it doesn't work out when
the baby is little and nursing, or it's a
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:hectic year that it's the being together.
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:But if the blueberry muffins was a special
thing, then let Costco make it that year.
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:If it's too hard, you know, you still
have them, but Costco can do it.
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:But I do, I aspire towards
that and I love that?
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:if I'm feeling overwhelmed
to be like, okay.
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:Can we do that?
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:Still has the memory behind
it, but that might not be so
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:hard on me.
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:Stephanie: That's such a wise word.
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:About counting the cost of the
traditions that we commit to, one
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:year, so embarrassing, I served my
mother in law frozen pizza, not even
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:good frozen pizza but frozen pizza
for our Christmas dinner you're
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:planning for so many different things.
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:And it had like Christmas and
our Christmas Eve planned.
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:And then we were going
to have family in town.
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:and then she came early.
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:we went shopping that day and
shopping took longer than we expected.
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:And then I like, maybe we can just
go to Costco and buy a pot pie.
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:And we're standing in line with the pot
pie And realizing, oh my goodness, this
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:takes forever to bake And, it's already
getting late and what are we going to do?
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:And it ended up being a frozen pizza.
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:And so now we laugh about it with
trying to make everything lovely
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:yeah, I remember that one year
you served me pizza for Christmas.
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:It's, it's good to be humbled some years,
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:Betsy: takes,
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:Stephanie: Yeah.
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:Betsy: it takes a lot of planning
to have guests, not just for a meal,
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:but for.
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:Several days.
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:Stephanie: instituted
Yalobakaflod a couple years ago,
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:which I absolutely love it.
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:Do any of you do it?
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:Betsy: no, we
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:Stephanie: Okay.
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:And I am pretty sure that's
the correct pronunciation.
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:I did look it up last year.
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:Jalabakaflod.
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:It is an Icelandic tradition
where on Christmas Eve, they
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:exchange chocolate and books.
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:And I have decided I, I just love
it because in all of the busyness of
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:the traditions and making everything
special and feeding everyone, I
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:feel like sometimes at the end
of it, did I just sit with them?
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:Did I just enjoy it?
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:Even when I'm together the Lego sets with
them, it's like you're still something.
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:I just want to relax with them.
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:And so we do, sometimes we do it the
night before Christmas Eve and sometimes
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:on Christmas Eve, depending on how
our traveling schedule works out.
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:But I buy a special book for each of
the kids and then give them chocolate.
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:And, maybe it's their
favorite chocolate bar.
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:And sometimes I'll make chocolate
lava cakes homemade hot chocolate and
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:We Then, as they're getting older,
they'll read on their own for a while.
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:And we'll be in our, Christmasy pajamas.
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:Some of the kids, when they're
younger, buying like a treasury,
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:like Madeline's the Treasury, all
of the books in one, or the Kevin
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:Henkes books in one, been special.
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:And so I would recommend to any moms
that feel like, where is the peace
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:in all of this, in the busyness.
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:And it is, it would be a hard thing
to do when your kids are really
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:little and can't sit for too long.
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:So I'm.
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:Excited that I found out about it
when my kids were old enough just rest
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:on the couch for a while together.
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:Let's turn now to how we handle
gift giving in our homes.
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:Jen: we do.
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:Sibling Gifts, where we go to the
store and they use their own money
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:to buy a gift for their sibling.
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:Sometimes we will either do a bigger gift
and they'll draw names, or if they choose
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:they want to do each of them buying a
gift, then we'll do a smaller amount.
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:And then they can, you know, like
one year they went to five below
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:and they picked for everybody.
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:So they, each of them bought
three gifts to give, but then
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:last year they decided
they wanted to spend
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:20 and draw a name.
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:And that was really sweet.
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:Cause it was a
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:little bit more of a nicer gift.
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:And it was really fun
to see them pick it out.
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:And they're, that is the gift
that they want to give right away.
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:First thing, they don't
want to open a gift.
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:They want to give their gift.
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:And I love that.
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:Stephanie: Absolutely.
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:We do the same exact thing.
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:Same price limit, everything
with the four kids.
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:Yep.
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:20 limit.
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:They draw names and then,
but so excited about that
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:Jen: Yeah.
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:And I, also do what Betsy does
with writing a code on it.
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:I, because they're, like the
size of the box they can guess.
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:And so I'm known for putting like a
golf ball in it just to, to turn it.
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:And it sounds different
and to throw them off.
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:So I.
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:Now I do have a code and so now when
they go down, they don't know I have, as
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:I wrap it, I put it out and so there's,
right now there's gifts under the tree
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:and they have no idea who it's for because
it has a code on it that only I know.
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:So it's fun.
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:They're like
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:trying
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:to guess and
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:Stephanie: Legos.
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:And so I will,
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:Betsy: Oh!
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:Stephanie: wrap up boxes of cereal a lot.
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:And they'll, but they'll be
excited too because it's don't let
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:them eat those kind of cereals.
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:Anyway, and so then they're like, that's
still a great gift, but it's not the
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:Legos that I thought I was getting.
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:Yes, I the
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:Betsy: because
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:Stephanie: that's fun, yeah.
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:Betsy: The, it is a really great,
it really helps a lot because if
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:you're shopping for a large amount
of people, like you do when you're a
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:grandma, it's really hard to keep it
really out balanced and even, and it
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:is even if you have a number of kids.
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:That really helps to have the envelope
or to go out on that shopping day.
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:We really love that, but we also play
a good attitude game and that is this
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:is just something a little extra I
do and this is a hard tradition to
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:keep too because now I have to shop
for 18 people it's like a white
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:elephant and you go around but there's
Lots of great presence in there,
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:but there's always a clunker.
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:And one year Johnny fell for the.
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:Giant, beautiful box with the bent
up wire hangers and, but to, like
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:you start the game and you say,
this is the good attitude game.
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:Now you have nothing and you are going
to go home with something, but you
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:have to have a good attitude about it.
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:and you know what?
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:They have an opportunity to trade
it out, but he had the very last
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:opportunity to trade it out.
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:And he traded for the.
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:the.
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:box, which now they never pick the
big fancy box, but, this year it
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:was actually something really nice.
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:Try not to make anybody too upset.
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:And lots of times I will, pick it out
at the end, but no, we really want it
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:to be, You know, have a good attitude.
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:Now, when you play that
game, you know how it goes.
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:You go all the way through the lineup
to number 18, but then we start over at
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:number one and they can trade it out.
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:So now they see everything.
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:And by the way, they're wrapped
and they have a ribbon and they
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:have to fish for it with a hook.
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:It's a toy one.
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:It's not a real fishing they
have to fish for their prize.
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:it's set on a big table.
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:And, always the game
within the game, we call it.
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:It's really fun to watch them all.
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:Oh my goodness.
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:Fling that hook around was dangerous
this year with the little kids,
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:so that's just a little extra thing
that you might do to, you feel
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:like, Hey, they already know what
they're probably going to get.
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:So I want to have
something that's a little
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:Emily: So fun.
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:Stephanie: we do the something you
want, something you need, something
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:to do something to read, and then,
do a shared gift, so what you were
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:saying, Jen, but this is their big
gift, and one year it was a fort
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:building kit, and one year it was...
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:food with this farm stand
when they were younger.
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:I guess I like it because it's.
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:It takes away part of that possessiveness
and greediness a little bit that this
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:is to share and to enjoy together, but
you're still getting something special.
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:And then I'm happy to spend a
little bit more on that item.
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:One year we used all of our Costco rewards
for an entire year and then put all the
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:aunt and uncle money and got a swing set.
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:So was really exciting, but
I always have a fun challenge
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:for them to open that gift.
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:year we did a Christmas escape
room, and they had to solve
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:all these puzzles to open it.
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:One year, we had them figure
out how many gifts you would
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:get in the 12 days of Christmas.
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:It can go so quickly to open
up the gifts that they have.
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:when they do this challenge together,
it extends the morning, I just like to
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:hear the way that they encourage each
other and the teamwork that it produces.
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:Also I should say when we give
the something to do, sometimes
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:it's been a game that then
we'll play that as a family,
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:I like the idea of the gift producing.
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:An opportunity for family time.
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:now let's talk a little bit
about our thoughts on Santa's.
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:Does anyone have a strong conviction
or a strong preference on the topic?
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:Emily: We always,
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:Jen: Oh, sorry.
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:Emily: we always, and we never,
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:Jen: was so funny.
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:We.
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:Emily: No,
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:We did set out cookies and milk
for Santa because we made all of
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:those sugar cookies, but our kids
never, they knew Santa wasn't real.
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:It was just a fun thing that
we just played along with.
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:They knew it wasn't real, so we had fun
with it, but we never, but they knew.
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:They knew all along.
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:And I didn't grow up believing in Santa.
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:But and the kids had fun with it.
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:We would set it.
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:out in a cute little vintage Santa mug.
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:And we just had fun with it.
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:And we always ask dad, like Jake,
what cookies Santa wanted this year.
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:So we just enjoyed it.
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:But they always knew
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:the real meaning behind Christmas.
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:Jen: We didn't do Santa.
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:We just, I don't know we
never, we just never did.
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:We told them from the beginning yeah,
people are going to ask you in the store,
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:Santa's going to bring You and you can
just give them an answer and move on.
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:But, they obviously knew about
Santa You can't, I don't think it's
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:possible for people to not know about
Santa because everybody does it.
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:This year, I actually had a friend
whose daughter, still believes in
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:Santa and they go through great
extent to help her to keep that.
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:Just magical for them.
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:And so we had to talk to my youngest
about like, how do you handle that?
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:Like it's not your job to
crush her dreams there.
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:So just having to be careful about
that's just not what our family does.
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:We're not against it.
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:We just always wanted it.
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:I always wanted our kids to feel
like we're telling them the truth.
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:That's just a personal conviction for
us, that we just wanted to that they
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:were hearing the truth from us, but
that's not to say that I think it's...
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:Horrible.
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:Stephanie: She'll
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:still be friends with you Emily
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:Jen: Yeah.
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:Yeah.
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:Betsy: Well, I mean,
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:There was a real Saint Nick,
so you can tell him about that,
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:the idea is to be giving and charitable
yeah, the whole idea of Santa has
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:definitely gone to the extreme.
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:I would let my kids, if they wanted
to, get a picture with Santa, but
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:they always knew that it wasn't, real.
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:We always said, everything we have
comes from the Lord, not Santa.
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:But, don't rain on people's parades
if they're pretty serious about it,
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:except, I don't understand why people
would be really serious about it.
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:Because there's other things that are
so much more serious and more important.
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:But there's some pretty
cute things out there.
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:But I just never bought
anything with Santa.
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:We just never had Santa
in our house at all.
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:He just wasn't in there.
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:But not to say that we didn't
see a book that had Santa on it.
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:Or that you might see, some
really cute little mugs, it's
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:just a personal preference.
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:You just have to know what the truth
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:is and that everything
comes from the Lord.
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:Stephanie: yeah, that's
a great distinction.
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:When I was in college, I heard one
of, the guys in our campus ministry
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:say, My parents didn't want to teach
us about Santa and teach us about
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:God and have us find out Santa wasn't
real and think God wasn't real.
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:And just at that moment, I was like, all
right, like my mind's made up and not
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:because you can't do both, but because
like you said, Jen, that I want my kids to
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:know that I will tell you the truth, but
I feel like it's such a displaced focus.
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:Everything magical about
Santa is true of Jesus.
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:he Rides through the clouds, you can
read in scripture about how, Jesus has
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:returned and he's gonna come on the clouds
and the Santa, he sees you when you're
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:sleeping, he knows when you're awake.
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:I feel like when it's about Santa,
it's almost creepy and he's record
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:keeping, but with the Lord, that's for
our protection and our goodness and
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:tenderness, and he gives good gifts.
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:And he's a generous father.
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:All of the great things about
Santa are true of Jesus.
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:And so why would I spend
time focusing on that?
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:Betsy: Give his glory to another.
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:Stephanie: Yes.
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:I remember finding out that Santa
wasn't real and I was crushed and just
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:I feel like, how could you lie to me
and felt like part of my childhood died.
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:And so I think some even I have
some relatives that are like,
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:how could you take that magical
part away from your children?
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:But I feel no, I want to teach them.
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:About all of that hope and
all of that pure heartedness.
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:That's yes and amen and Jesus.
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:And so you can, we can actually
steward that and encourage it by
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:saying you're right, like you,
you were built for something
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:magical, for something supernatural
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:And
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:Emily: Yes.
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:Yes.
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:Betsy: And Jesus just doesn't
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:disappoint when you hear
about who he really is.
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:I'm never thought about that.
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:I'm going to have to meditate on
that for a little while for sure.
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:But really we might have strong thoughts
on it, but we know that it's a personal
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:preference and Emily I'm sure that your.
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:Vintage bug is adorable and we
would gladly drink out of them.
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:If we were celebrating at your house.
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:Betsy: I've
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:seen some
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:pretty cute
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:Santa things I have.
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:Jen: I find it would be
exhausting to keep it going.
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:Like I would be like, Oh man,
we gotta keep doing this.
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:And I don't just it freed me so much
to be like, yeah, he's not real.
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:Sorry.
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:Betsy: It's interesting that the two
main holidays, Christmas and Easter,
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:there's secular view of, eclipsing that
with an Easter Bunny or Santa Claus.
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:And where we feel the Santa Claus
is benevolent, I don't know what the
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:Easter Bunny does, but Neither one
of those, even though we might have
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:a bunny cake or an Easter egg hunt or
whatever, and we do that, it doesn't
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:mean they know that Jesus reigns
supreme in everything and every day.
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:But we also do love to do some
I love a good imagination and
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:some fun and some creativity.
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:And I think, imaginary things and
things with little children are fun.
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:And I think that's the thing
that people are gravitating
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:towards with their children.
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:But we just have to be careful
that it never eclipses the true,
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:one who never forsakes, never,
fails us, never disappoints us,
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